Let’s get real for a second: why is female masturbation still such a hush-hush topic? It’s completely normal, healthy, and one of the best ways to connect with your own body and feel empowered in your sexuality. Yet, for some reason, it’s been wrapped up in stigma for far too long. It’s time to change that.

First things first, masturbation isn’t just for men. And it definitely isn’t something we should feel embarrassed about. When you explore your body—whether with your hands or with a toy—you’re doing something totally natural. Not only does it feel good, but it’s also an amazing way to learn what brings you pleasure. Trust me, getting to know your own body is the best kind of self-care.

Dr. Lori Brotto, a psychologist and sexual health researcher, is a big advocate for this. She says, “Masturbation helps women learn about their bodies and their responses, reducing anxiety around sex and promoting sexual confidence.” So, if you’ve ever felt weird about it—don’t. You’re in good company! In fact, according to research by the Kinsey Institute, more than half of women masturbate regularly, and many report feeling more connected to their bodies because of it.

Here’s something else to keep in mind: masturbation isn’t just for when you’re single. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, it’s a fantastic way to relax, release tension, and understand what really works for you. The more you’re in tune with your own pleasure, the better you can communicate those needs to your partner. And that, my friend, leads to a much more satisfying sex life for both of you!

What about the guilt or shame that some of us have felt around it? Well, let’s flip the script. Masturbation is just another form of self-care—it helps you unwind, de-stress, and boost your mood. Plus, it’s a great way to stay in touch with your sexual needs and desires, without any pressure.

If you’re new to it or just looking to mix things up, don’t be shy about trying out different techniques or incorporating toys. After all, why wait for Prince Charming when you can take matters into your own hands, right? 

And here’s the bottom line: Masturbation is completely normal and incredibly beneficial for your physical and emotional well-being. So, let’s break the taboo and celebrate solo pleasure for what it really is—a natural, empowering part of life.