Wellness Silicone Dilator Set (4 pcs)

How to Use the Wellness Silicone Dilator Set

Co-written By a Pelvic Floor Specialist

This set is designed to help you gradually and safely get comfortable with penetration, whether you're navigating vaginismus, postpartum recovery, or healing after medical treatment. Take your time—there is no rush. The goal is not performance, but reconnection.

1. Create a calm, private space

Choose a quiet, comfortable setting where you feel safe and undisturbed. Many women find it helpful to use the dilator while lying on their bed, knees bent and hips supported with a pillow.

2. Start with the smallest dilator

Begin with the smallest size (XS – 1.27 cm diameter). This allows your pelvic floor muscles to adjust slowly and gently, without resistance.

3. Use a quality water-based lubricant

Apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to the dilator and to your vaginal opening. This reduces friction and protects the sensitive tissue. Do not use coconut oil or silicone-based lubes, as they can damage the silicone material.

4. Insert slowly, with your breath

Gently place the rounded tip at your vaginal opening and take a deep breath. As you exhale, softly guide the dilator inward. Go only as far as feels comfortable—no forcing. If you feel tension, pause and breathe. You are in control.

5. Hold, breathe, release

Once inserted, hold the dilator in place for 5 to 10 minutes. Focus on relaxing your pelvic floor and belly. Let your breath be slow and full. With time, this helps retrain the body’s response to penetration.

6. Remove gently and rest

When you're ready, slowly withdraw the dilator. Stay lying down for a few moments and notice how your body feels. A warm compress or gentle pelvic stretches can be soothing afterward.

7. Clean with lukewarm water and a gentle toy cleaner

Wash the dilator after each use with lukewarm water and a mild, pH-safe toy cleaner. Let it air dry or dry it with a clean cloth before storing.

8. Progress only when ready

When the smallest size feels completely comfortable during use and insertion, you may move to the next size. Everyone’s pace is different—listen to your body. There’s no deadline.

Important (very!)

• Never force insertion. Mild discomfort is normal at first, but stop if you feel pain.
• If you're unsure, work with a pelvic floor physiotherapist or sexologist—they can guide and support you.
• This is a journey of healing. Be kind to yourself along the way.

Frequently Asked Questions: Dilator Sets / Pelottes

1. What is a dilator set and what is it used for?

A dilator set is a therapeutic tool designed to gently stretch and relax the vaginal muscles. It’s commonly used to treat vaginismus, dyspareunia (painful intercourse), postpartum tension, menopausal dryness, pelvic floor dysfunction, or for recovery after surgery, radiation, or trauma. It helps rebuild comfort with penetration—step by step, at your pace.

2. Will using a dilator hurt?

No, using a dilator should never be painful. You may feel a little pressure or stretching at first, especially if you’re tense, but the process should always remain gentle and controlled. If you feel pain, stop and try again later, possibly with a smaller size or more lubricant. Pain is a signal—listen to it.

3. How often should I use the dilator set?

We usually recommend 3 to 5 times per week, starting with short sessions of 5 to 10 minutes. It’s more effective to practice regularly for short periods than to force longer sessions. As always, follow your body’s cues—and if you’re working with a pelvic floor therapist, follow their tailored plan.

4. Do I need to use lubricant?

Yes. A quality water-based lubricant is essential for comfortable, effective use. During practice, the body may not produce natural moisture, especially when not sexually aroused. Lubricant reduces friction, protects sensitive tissue, and helps ease tension. Avoid silicone-based or oil-based lubricants like coconut oil, as they can damage silicone dilators.

5. How do I know when to move up to the next size?

Only move up when the current size feels completely comfortable during insertion, holding, and removal. You should be able to insert and hold the dilator without tension or pain. Some women take a few days between sizes, others a few weeks or months. Progress is personal—there’s no rush.

6. Can I use this set if I’m not sexually active?

Yes, absolutely. These dilators are not about sex—they’re about comfort, body awareness, and healing. Whether or not you’re sexually active, they can support your pelvic floor health and help you reconnect with your body.

7. Is this set safe to use alone?

Yes. The Wellness Silicone Dilator Set is designed for safe solo use. That said, if you feel anxious, stuck, or overwhelmed, working with a pelvic floor physiotherapist or sexologist can be very helpful. You don’t have to do it all alone.

8. How do I clean the dilators?

• Wash each dilator after use with lukewarm water and a mild, pH-balanced toy cleaner. Let them air dry or pat dry with a clean cloth. Store them in a clean, dry place. Do not boil or use harsh soaps

Made from 100% medical-grade, hypoallergenic silicone—trusted by pelvic therapists and designed for sensitive bodies