Hey Wonderful! Happy New Year!

Let’s dive into something close to my heart: sexual wellness. It’s one of those topics that often stays in the shadows, yet it’s so deeply tied to who we are and how we feel—physically, emotionally, and mentally. And yes, I know it can be a bit of a taboo subject, but that’s exactly why we need to talk about it. So grab a cup of something warm, and let’s explore this fascinating topic together.

Sexual Education: What They Didn’t Teach You in School

Remember those awkward biology classes back in the day? Everything revolved around preventing pregnancy and STIs, but where was the talk about pleasure, desire, and communication? Exactly—it was skipped.

Here’s the thing: so many women discover what truly brings them pleasure only much later in life. A friend of mine recently confessed that she didn’t understand how her clitoris worked until she was well into her 30s. She’s not alone. Did you know that 75% of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone? It’s not a flaw in your body—it’s a matter of knowledge.

Books like Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski are game-changers. They don’t just help you understand your body better; they also teach you to embrace your desires with love and confidence.

Hormones: Your Secret Allies (and Sometimes Troublemakers)

Did you know your hormonal cycle has a massive impact on your sexual energy? Take estrogen and testosterone, for example. Right before ovulation, these hormones spike, and you might feel like your body is throwing a natural party. But after your period, your drive might dip—and that’s completely okay.

Oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone," also plays a huge role. It’s released during physical touch, kissing, and orgasms, and it’s designed to deepen your connection with yourself and others. By understanding your hormonal cycle, you can tune into your body’s needs—whether that means taking more rest or leaning into that extra spark.

Navigating Menopause and Low Libido

Let’s talk about menopause. It’s a huge transition in every woman’s life, and it can bring changes to your sexual wellness. Lower estrogen levels might lead to vaginal dryness or a decreased libido, but that doesn’t mean your pleasure has to stop.

This is where products like high-quality lubricants and vaginal moisturizers come in. They’re game-changers for staying comfortable and connected to your body. Plus, there are ways to reignite desire—whether it’s trying something new in your routine, exploring sensual touch, or prioritizing intimacy in your busy life.

And about low libido? It happens to everyone. Stress, lack of sleep, and even relationship dynamics can play a role. The key is to approach it with kindness and curiosity instead of judgment. Sometimes, the smallest changes—like scheduling alone time or using a pleasure-enhancing product—can make a world of difference.

Breaking Taboos: Let’s Talk About It

We grow up in a culture where talking about sexuality often feels awkward. Maybe you’ve felt ashamed to voice your desires or thought something was "not normal." But really, who decides what’s normal?

A recent client of mine wanted to introduce a pleasure toy into her relationship but was nervous about how her partner might react. My advice? Frame it like trying a new recipe together—it’s not about replacing anything; it’s about enriching the experience. And guess what? He was totally on board.

Breaking taboos often starts small. Share something with a friend, ask a question, or open yourself up to new experiences. Every step brings you closer to freedom.

Balancing Sexuality with a Busy Life

If your schedule feels overwhelming, you’re not alone. So many of us put ourselves last on the to-do list. But sexual wellness isn’t just about pleasure—it’s about reconnecting with yourself.

Start with bite-sized moments. Maybe it’s a mindful five minutes in the shower, a luxurious massage oil before bed, or even just taking a deep breath to tune into your body. These small rituals can help you feel more present and connected to yourself, even on the busiest days.

Where to Start?

The beauty of sexual wellness is that you can start right now. Make time for yourself. Try something new, like a luxurious lubricant or a transformative massage wand (seriously, life-changing). Read a book, take a course, or just listen to your body. You deserve this.

At inWONDERSTATE, we’re here for you. Whether you’re looking for advice, beautiful products, or simply inspiration, this is your space. You deserve to shine, to be yourself, and above all, to enjoy.

Let’s keep this conversation going, with a smile, together. Your body and soul will thank you.

Love, S*